nearlyhuman asked: So, I've been wondering this for a while. What are your opinions on the topic of objectification? I've noticed that you tag a looooot of your posts regarding physical features, generally about a person's physical/sexual attractiveness. From my perspective, sometimes the things you say come off as objectifying, lustful, now and then down-right degrading. I've been raised to want people to comment on my intellect or character over my butt or whatever... what are your thoughts?
Ouch lol… well, here’s the thing. A very substantial portion of my comments are largely sarcastic/generalized. Granted, when I comment on somebodies attractiveness/physical features (and I do so on both guys and girls, so I can’t be tagged as a dudebro who sexualizes women) I do actually mean what I say. However, I am extremely careful (or try my best to be) about what I say when commenting on women specifically though. (There are no “oh nice butt” tags on any posts with girls in them for example) Because they are wrongfully sexualized and objectified almost non-stop 24/7. The most I say when commenting on a actress or attractive game character, ect, (and I screen my female game characters, because I don’t want to support characters that are obviously being sexualized) is “gorgeous”, “attractive”, or similar words. I wont ever comment on a girls body in a sensual way, and if I do please call me out on it. I believe men have degraded themselves and encouraged bad stereotypes in women, and deserve a very substantial portion of the flak they receive from more extreme feminist groups. Granted, women have a freaking right to be angry at this point. I would be too.
Now I am marginally more open with my posts about guys, and this is partially because I cannot be very open with my opinions there in my general life for obvious reasons (Christians generally reacting extremely towards alternate sexuality of any kind for example). Its also because I commonly find myself more attracted to men then I do women. No, I am not “more gay” as some less eloquent people would say -_- What I am is more selective with my attractions in women. This is mostly because the majority of my friends are female. I have had a lot of experience with girls in a platonic way and so I’ve discovered what I “like” and don’t like. This is not physical appearance mind you. When I say that, I am speaking of personality. I have seen many types of girls, so I can usually quickly tell whether or not I would enjoy dating them/they would enjoy dating me. I have also been raised to always put personality over looks as well, and on the off chance I get married/have kids I will make sure they are raised the same.
There’s also the fact that men are not sexualized at NEARLY the level that women are, so I feel more comfortable saying what I like about someone who is male. I probably do seem more sexual then I actually mean in some of my posts, but I guarantee the intention is NOT objectification. Its actually longing usually, and not necessarily the lusty kind. “I” as a christian cannot act on half of my sexuality, and because of that I express it in different ways, i.e posting hot guys on my blog. Its the desire for relationship, and in more extreme cases physical relationship that I will never be able to have or experience due to my choice to follow my God. I suppose some of that desire is actually lust, and while I don’t condone lust, I experience it like anyone else. As a man, I especially experience it.
I’m not sure anything I’ve said has been degrading per say, when referring to men. (I have never to my knowledge consciously said something degrading about women, sexually or appearance wise I mean. Like I said, I believe as a man that it is especially wrong to do such.) And though I do often post things regarding attractive people, the vast majority of what I post is not that. Any follower that takes offense at something I post may express that offense if done so in a polite manner. If the offense is reasonable and justified, I will of course remove whatever was offensive. My intent is never objectification, and if that is what you have seen I sincerely apologize. I do not support objectification, or the extreme sexualization of women, as it is obviously wrong.
(Sorry for the long post. I just thought this deserved an honest real reply. Also, thanks for reading my tags lol. I didn’t think anyone paid attention to them xD usually they’re just thought ramblings)